Making New Friends......I hope :)

[K3Dougie]

i think it would be nice to have someone kind of guide you along until you feel confident in the scene as well!!!

my friend Candy got my friends and I into the scene a few months ago and we are just now starting to branch out on our own a little. It was nice having her at our first few raves to kind of look to for advice.

I am really scared about POP. I have only been to 4 renegades so far and the thought of a massive is overwhelming. I am going but I'm afraid to freak out because of all the people. I'm also afraid to get seperated from the only two people I know that will be there.... Good thing my friend Candy is going, cuz she can help us cope a little cuz she is a seasoned raver!!!


I think every new raver should have an older raver ( not necessarily age wise..) to look to for guidence.


.:sam:.

[plainsnymph]

yeah I am going to going with my bf( seasoned raver) and my step sister
( whom I like and hate of and on and who is older them me but really naive) an some of her friends whom i dont know nor like. We should meet up or something or maybe even meet up before hand . Jared has been to all sorts of raves but as a kandi raver drugged out of his senses, so while he can handle that aspect, hes not so good at just generating random friends lol

[ms_sunshine_princess]

basically ill be everyones friend! find me on myspace or talk to me on aim

myspace: xmidnightsunx

aim: deadsygurlie

and if your at a rave and you see a rainbow umbrella, you kno ms sunshines under there

heres me----> [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

PLUR

[buttons]

Wow. Remeber when one could find their new best friend over-night?
The vibe now is that everyone is too scared to just walk up to someone and start a conversation. Is this due to the rash of violence? Or the Thizz, instead of E? Is it just because new people coming into the scene dont realize that all ravers used to be everyones best friend, if only for a night?
When I have been to some of the kandie/candy parties recently, I feel like no one is open to meeting new people anymore. I thought it was just me getting old.
When I first began raving, the thing that drew me in was the fact that EVERYONE was sooo freaking nice. I felt like I could walk up to anyone and have that person be responsive to me and that we could start a mutual conversation about anything.
Sucks that there isnt that kind of safety anymore...

[MojoKong]

I'm still trying to keep it alive, but people are too afraid to talk to me in normal clothes unless I've got a water.

[plainsnymph]

yeah. come one come all and say hi to me, I promises I will be stoked your being nice, and you'll brighten my experience greatly. Hmm heres my myspace [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] but f you try to add me , send me and email and let me know who you are so I don't deny you thinking you are a band or someone I dont know

[K3Dougie]

we should totally meet up before POP! We should have like a ravelinks meet up, and all go together sorta. (I hear the lines are pretty long so being in a group during the standing around time would be fun.) We could even meet outside if only to wait in line together lol

My friends and I were going to go and make a day of it so as to be not to far back in the line. I would love to meet up with some of you guys before hand since i'm guessing it will be hard to find people once all aprox. 10,000 people are walking around / dancing...

that is, to all you that are attending Pop.....


.:sam:.

[plainsnymph]

yeah I want to get there early of course I havn't even looked at what time it starts. but it would be neat to meet up, even if its only a few of us, might help yours and mine nerves haha calm us down to see that people are nice and the like.

does anyone know how early one should get there to not stand in a line of doom?

[RaverBoi123]

awwww new kiddies, funny I'm saying that cuz I consider myself an extreme newb, you can find me at luck of the irish 2 anddd POP and probablly a renegade on the weekend in between those, if you see me at a renegade I'll probabbbbbbly have nitrous and if you go oh heyyyy I'm from rl I'll probablllly give you some so bring your free drugs coupons kiddies , I'm the tall lanky kid with dreads and a bright green free hugs shirt, or just ask around for wonder , ADHD makes me the opposite of shy and I love mmeeting new people, if you ever need any help with just about anything I'll do what I can, whether it's getting that cheap ecstasy, running from some angry mexicans, or you just wannt a light show I always do what I can for the fellow raver. PLUR bitches

[Chicago]

like whoa, everyone has got me super excited for st. paddy's/pop. still need my ticket...*le SIGH*. i need to work some shit out...

to those who are saddened by lack of openness...

i think the openness is still there but only among a small amount of people. whenever i go to a party (but please note i've only been to four) i feel like there's this division between vets, newbs, kandi kids, hyphy kids, non-hostile black kids who look like hyphy kids, sober partiers, e-tards, drunks, stoners, candy flippers, lovers, fighters, dancers, cuddle puddlers, and combinations of any of the aforementioned. so pretty much every little group there. what makes it hard to meet people is when you're new on the scene and don't really feel a connection to any particular group. it's like junior high/freshman year of high school all over again. that insecurity accompanied by this confusion as to who is okay to talk to and who will tell you to go fuck off and die. which to some vets may seem completely illogical cuz yeah, plur and whatnot and this is a scene built on love and whatever, but just look at the ravelinks board in general. there are so many generalizations and harsh words being thrown around it can make people who are already shy such as me, sam, and princessnymph really really scared about talking to strangers. however, it just makes me really thankful for those people who ARE willing to ask us if we're enjoying the party and if we'd like a light show (btw, sam goes crazy for light shows and they have a special place in my heart as well ).

i don't know, i know we should be more outgoing but right now it's still kinda hard. my current strategy is to keep smiling, though. so if you see a goofy-looking black girl with braids smiling and dancing like a spaz, talk to meeeee! i'm shy, but i promise i don't normally bite!

this was a long post. glad you stayed in tune. stay chill!

~ they call me lots of things. mostly kyra.

[K3Dougie]

I LOVE light shows!!! anywho ....

I agree with Kyra, the 'cliques' that people form based on all the things she mentioned above ^^ make it harder for people like myself to make new friends. I read on here about how people don't like the 'kandi kids' or the 'hyphy' kids or the people giving light shows in the middle of the dance floor, and it makes me sad. When I am at a rave the only people that I notice and don't like / am afraid of are the ones that just stand their watching everyone dance. I can't really classify them as a group because they consist of a little of everyone. I know they don't need to dance or what ever because they are probably just enjoying the music, but to me, those are the only groups that I really see. (There are also people that sit / stand around talking to people and stuff, but I'm not really afraid of them.) When I am dancing (ha ha, I like to call it that, although I don't really think it can be considered dancing...) I kinda get creeped out by the mass of people just standing and watching, so I move up closer to the speakers where I can't see them. THEN, the dancers themselves are a bit intimidating as well. I feel like they are the ones I would feel more comfortable talking with, but don't want to bother them when they are obviously enjoying the music.

And the big hype that some people have about sober partying and what not, I usually can't tell who is rolling / stoned / drunk / or just generally happy to be there, unless they are extremely gone.. So when I'm floating around I don't know who is going to be all "Oh, I'm a sober partier" and stick their nose up at me. I know I'm a newb and people think that the newbie kids are just coming to the parties to get fucked up (e'd out, faded, and so on), so when I tell people that I'm a new raver I'm afraid they will associate me with the supposed "druggie kids". I'm not I swear!

this is the predicament I find myself in at every rave and why it is hard for me to make friends ....


p.s. At my first rave I was totally creeped out by the amount of people standing on the dance floor watching everyone. At the time i had no clue about PLUR or anything, I didn't even think raving still existed (i'm from NH). But then this cool kid gave me a light show and I was in awe. I told him he was amazing and he kinda looked at me funny and asked if it was my first rave. When I said yes he smiled, and introduced me to the act of exchanging Kandi. He was SO nice! So I think if it wasn't for light show-ers and happy PLUR kids, a lot of people like myself wouldn't really get into raving.


holy crap, I wrote a novel...
(if only it was this easy to write my English paper..)

.:Sam:.

[Crayon]

Originally Posted by K3Dougie

I LOVE light shows!!! anywho ....

I agree with Kyra, the 'cliques' that people form based on all the things she mentioned above ^^ make it harder for people like myself to make new friends. I read on here about how people don't like the 'kandi kids' or the 'hyphy' kids or the people giving light shows in the middle of the dance floor, and it makes me sad. When I am at a rave the only people that I notice and don't like / am afraid of are the ones that just stand their watching everyone dance. I can't really classify them as a group because they consist of a little of everyone. I know they don't need to dance or what ever because they are probably just enjoying the music, but to me, those are the only groups that I really see. (There are also people that sit / stand around talking to people and stuff, but I'm not really afraid of them.) When I am dancing (ha ha, I like to call it that, although I don't really think it can be considered dancing...) I kinda get creeped out by the mass of people just standing and watching, so I move up closer to the speakers where I can't see them. THEN, the dancers themselves are a bit intimidating as well. I feel like they are the ones I would feel more comfortable talking with, but don't want to bother them when they are obviously enjoying the music.

And the big hype that some people have about sober partying and what not, I usually can't tell who is rolling / stoned / drunk / or just generally happy to be there, unless they are extremely gone.. So when I'm floating around I don't know who is going to be all "Oh, I'm a sober partier" and stick their nose up at me. I know I'm a newb and people think that the newbie kids are just coming to the parties to get fucked up (e'd out, faded, and so on), so when I tell people that I'm a new raver I'm afraid they will associate me with the supposed "druggie kids". I'm not I swear!

this is the predicament I find myself in at every rave and why it is hard for me to make friends ....


p.s. At my first rave I was totally creeped out by the amount of people standing on the dance floor watching everyone. At the time i had no clue about PLUR or anything, I didn't even think raving still existed (i'm from NH). But then this cool kid gave me a light show and I was in awe. I told him he was amazing and he kinda looked at me funny and asked if it was my first rave. When I said yes he smiled, and introduced me to the act of exchanging Kandi. He was SO nice! So I think if it wasn't for light show-ers and happy PLUR kids, a lot of people like myself wouldn't really get into raving.


holy crap, I wrote a novel...
(if only it was this easy to write my English paper..)

.:Sam:.

That was a very fun to read post, thanks for that, and i think i know what your talking about when you speak of people just kinda standing around. I do that generally when i'm getting a weird vibe and i fee like i have to be attentive to every aspect of my enviorment, like at "the Revolution" for instance where you could just feel the impending doom in the air. But im probably mostly the kid dancing a lot who you're don't won't to bother cause i'm having fun, and even though i don't think i've ever meet you , you seem like you're the same. So i propse this, next party look for the black kid with dreamds named Crayon, ask around you'll find me and we'll say hi to each other and get the akwardness out of the way =).

Originally Posted by plainsnymph

yeah I want to get there early of course I havn't even looked at what time it starts. but it would be neat to meet up, even if its only a few of us, might help yours and mine nerves haha calm us down to see that people are nice and the like.

does anyone know how early one should get there to not stand in a line of doom?

I would say as early as humanly possible, if you don't have school or work or anything stroll by int he middle of the day and guage whats going on, than bum around the area till you think u need to stand in , or form a line but getting in early is nice, cause you get time to explore before it's crowded and moving from room to room becomes some what of a task.