Sorry you had a wack experience at Rich's. Rich's will let you come in tshirts and sneaks the special nights they have Djs, but they won't want you to go full raver or bring raver toys like lights and things. I have seen some people bust out with them, but for the most part, Rich's is going to operate like most clubs do.
Rich's has GREAT sound and is a really nice place to go at times. You need to come on a different night. I went there for Ferry Corsten and had a good time. You might want to check out parties thrown by SDC at the Silo. They have a very ravey feel to them.
Here is a flyer to a past event !!
SDC tends to throw these once or twice every month. You gotta see it to believe it!! It's good times.