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Originally Posted by *rogue*
I'm not sure I really understand what you're trying to say >_<
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I'm taking it to its logical extreme. What I'm getting at is that even if people are threatening to kill themselves, it's going to do more good than harm to say, "OK, so why do you feel/think/experience that?" than to tell them not to kill themselves.
Why?
Because people who want to fuck themselves up want to do so for a reason. Animals don't engage in self-destructive behavior for nothing. There's something they're responding to.
And finding out what that is could be just as useful as placing a limit on that self destructive behavior. If you tell people not to fuck themselves up...well, sometimes even the really nasty folks those people are dealing with tell them not to fuck themselves up, it's a line of conversation these people are used to and sometimes tired of. If you say, "Hey, sure, you want to injure youself. I can see why you want to do that, what that made of...?" there might be more you can do.
Not always. But sometimes. And do we really think that every time we tell a suicidal person not to kill herself or himself it saves a life? That every time we tell an anorexic they shouldn't "be anorexic" it helps? No way. These people know quite well what they're experiencing.